Heal Traumatic Reaction to Normal Situations

Most reactions to trauma are normal and understandable. The potential to experience trauma is part of life and many of us aren’t prepared and never learned best ways to deal with devastating loss and pain.

I have experienced the trauma of unimaginable loss throughout my life and had these reactions.

Reactions to Trauma
• Shock
• Negative Thoughts
• Bad Feelings
• Guilt
• Depression
• Anxiety
• Worry
• Righteous
• Hypervigilant
• Overreacting
• Catastrophizing
• Distraction Use
• Poor Self-care
• Sleepless

Once I completed implementing my action plan to thrive after loss and thought I had overcome my challenges, I didn’t understand I was still having some traumatic reactions to normal situations. Those feelings were a part of my life for so long, they seemed normal, until they grew and stood out in my life otherwise filled with peace, joy, and love.

I told a counselor I had unusual anxiety and I wasn’t sure why. I said it didn’t make sense for my heart to be racing so fast as I rambled on about wanting it to stop. I panicked when I didn’t understand what caused my nervousness because I feared my torture would worsen or never end. I was worrying about worrying and didn’t want to lose my ability to live life in a way I had grown to cherish.

The counselor explained although I dealt with the trauma in my life, the memories would always be in my mind. She said it’s common for those who have gone through trauma to be hypervigilant and to catastrophize.

I had an “aha!” moment. That was exactly what I was doing! My enhanced state of trying to detect threats was exhausting, but with everything I went through it made sense I might wonder what terrible things would happen next. I unnecessarily believed some situations were far worse than they were. This huge shift in my thinking lead to some immediate serious healing.

Now that I understand the behaviors causing my anxiety, I watch out for them, acknowledge them, and choose to respond in a better way. Instead of accelerating my negative behaviors and physical pain, I reduced them by recognizing what’s happening. It’s understandable I have a tendency towards being hypervigilant and catastrophizing, but I no longer worry about it. I visualize myself not having the issue.

If you are having strong negative feelings that don’t make sense, there is probably a reason. Seek professional help to recognize the root cause of your pain so you can get on with creating your best life after trauma.

4 thoughts on “Heal Traumatic Reaction to Normal Situations

  1. Shsron says:

    I want to Thank You so much for this website. My husband and I are in our early 70s and have been married for almost 50 years and have lived a quality life. Just recently we started experiencing health problems and my husband has some serious memory problems. Our only daughter is in an emotionally abusive marriage , which counselors are telling us she is experiencing mind control over her 12 year marriage .We feel like we don’t know our daughter anymore. We worry for the beautiful grandchildren who are in early grade school. The anxiety , anger and hyper vigilance that has resulted is freightening to us. So glad to find this website. We just want peace again!

  2. cathycheshire says:

    I greatly appreciate you taking the time to respond. I admire you for taking care of your husband and seeking help regarding your daughter’s situation. I will tirelessly continue to help others through this ever-expanding website filled with hope. Please let me know if you have a blog topic idea or other suggestions.

    My husband and I have a close family member struggling for years with a dangerous codependent situation. To learn how to best deal with the situation, we also went to counseling and read related books. We visualize a positive outcome and love this person as much as they will let us.

    Congratulations on your upcoming special anniversary!

    Wishing you Love and Peace Always, Cathy Cheshire

  3. latonya battle says:

    My name is Tonya..I suffer from fear and anxiety after watching my son pass away..It’s been almost 2years since he passed..I still have emotional anxiety,i guess it’s depression i never been through anything like this before..my own mortality plays in my head or another love one..I don’t understand..i think i need help dealing with this..I’m afraid to feel the feelings..please help..

  4. Cathy Cheshire says:

    Hi Tonya, I’m so sorry about the loss of your son. I can’t imagine what you are going through, but can give you hope that you can learn to manage your anxiety and depression. Every loss is individual, but I also lost a son and struggled with unimaginable pain for a long time. Please call me at 216-903-9723 so I can learn more about your situation and tell you about the resources available to you. If you get my voicemail, please let me know the best time to call you back. I admire your strength and courage in reaching out for help. Hugs, Cathy

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